For the first time in over 7 years of marriage my wife and I are sharing a bathroom. As we transitioned into this new arrangement I was quite excited about it. I pictured us brushing our teeth together and sharing humorous moments like the couples on sitcoms do. And I haven't been disappointed. So far it's been a lot of fun!
When I married my wonderful husband on March 18, 2000, I didn't realize it at the time, but I also married the Columbus Crew, Pittsburgh Steelers, Pirates and Penguins, the US National soccer team, and the game of soccer itself. Of course I knew he loved these things, but I didn't understand the immensity of his passion.
I am not a music person, nor am I much of a dancer. And I was worried that I'd be expected to move in time, completely immersed. That's really not me. I said I felt like a dork standing there while a couple dozen folks looked at us and the empty stage. His brother said, “You really care what people think about you, don't you?” Busted.
One afternoon my husband and I were having lunch with an engaged couple. My husband asked the woman, “Do you think he’s the same person you’re going to be married to?” She lovingly gazed into her fiance’s eyes, and replied in her girly-girl voice, “Oh, yes!”
Maybe it is true. You can’t change someone. But you can sure as heck try! I’ve been trying for years, and he is coming along on some fronts. Here are some of my best tips. Filling the ice trays. Either I leave them all unfilled until he runs out entirely or I put them on the steps leading up to his office. When he asks why they’re on the steps, I say, “I wasn’t sure what you wanted me to do with them...”